- Honor that dreams are a private experience.
- Dreams are ultimately a mystery and respect for the mystery is the ultimate ethic to engage in doing dream work.
- Honor and respect the dreamer's anonymity and confidentiality . . . within and without the dreamsharing relationship or dream group.
- Respect for the integrity of dreamers: their vulnerability, weakness and sensitivity are to be honored, never exploited.
- Engage active LISTENing skills throughout the dreamsharing process.
- Honor the dreamer as the sole authority over their dreams and the dreamsharing process. Whenever someone shares a dream, they are sharing more of themselves than they realize. At times it will happen that an issue comes up after we have looked at the dream for some time which is embarrassing or difficult for the dreamer. If this happens, the dreamer is encouraged to say so; the dreamer may wish to look at another part of the dream -- or push ahead -- even though it is difficult. The choice is the dreamers and is always respected.
- Once the dream is completely told, we can express appreciation and curiosity about the dream. We will look for a deeper experience of what is really going on in the dream. We will ask good questions, questions that invite more description of the dream.
- Honor the non-interpretive approach; never tell anyone what their dream means. We never know anyway. When we feel that we do know, at best we know what it would mean if it were our dream. Even if it is true for the dreamer as well, we rob the dreamer of the chance to discover insights themselves.
- After spending time with the dream itself, we can ask "bridging questions," about how the dream might relate to the dreamer's waking life. Give the dreamer plenty of time to tune into their body and intuition for the answer to questions asked, to note the "aha" or "tingling" experience of insights falling into place.
- We will work to create an atmosphere free of pressure to get the full meaning of the dream, creating no expectations of interpretation and respecting that any dream may touch on different levels of the dreamer's psyche.
- When the dreamer makes new discoveries, follow their lead. build on the connections! Always look for the dreamer's own 'aha' of recognition.
- We will respect the mystery. Ultimately, dreams are a mystery and we will avoid feeling that every dream needs to be fully understood. We need to become comfortable with the unknown, which will continue to bring us gifts. Learn patience.
We respect and honor the many workable approaches to dreamsharing. Each will be called to this work/play according to a plan beyond the scope of any individual or group. Let us work to achieve a higher level of mutual respect and culture in the field of dreams than has been achieved in many fields of human endeavor. We need committed people; there is room for all.
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